We’ve been talking recently about being anti-fragile and how in Jesus, anything that is cut down, attacked or destroyed will ultimately come back stronger. The primary reason this is true is because love is anti-fragile and God is love.
If your daughter is dating a boy and you don’t like him, the worst thing you can do for that relationship is to tell her to stop dating the young man. Although it seems crazy and counterintuitive, probably the best thing is to be positive or stay neutral. Whether it’s true love or just infatuation, attacking the connection invalidates the strong feelings that are happening and almost guarantees a stubborn determination to keep going. Young love is tenacious and obstinate; try cutting it down and it will come back more robust! The same is true of a good marriage. Though tested by trials of fire and the stress of daily life, when two people are devoted for the long-haul, troubles only cause their connection to grow stronger. In fact, it’s difficulties that bring a richness to a relationship that could not be cultivated any other way.
Friend, true love is anti-fragile! No matter how much it is tried and tested, it never breaks. Because Jesus is the embodiment of perfect love, the same is true of His incredible devotion to you. Regardless of how many times you mess up, walk away, turn your back or just plain disobey His instruction, He will not stop loving you. His love is a gift and it has nothing to do with your performance. In fact, He chose to love you long before you ever thought of loving Him. You are a benefactor of the incredible affection and devotion God has for His beloved Son, and He has transferred the great joy He finds in Jesus to you. Since you are in Him, you make God happy, and that means you have received a gift of love that is indestructible and completely anti-fragile. As you live in His power, you will bring His resilient, unshakable, and determined love to an increasingly fragile world! Isn’t that great news?