How Others Experience Your Service

“You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love”

– Galatians 5:13

Today I’m going to continue looking at the second of four areas regarding your service. I think this is the most important point of all four: It’s not about whether or not I serve, but about how others experience my service as a whole. Friends, this principle deserves your consideration. In the end, it’s about what people experience from you. 

As a pastor praying and counseling people, I’ve met many men who are shocked when their wife serves them divorce papers. He felt the marriage was going well. It wasn’t amazing, but it was okay. This can also happen to a woman whose husband has an affair, and she is completely unaware of it. Recognize that one of the causes can be that the way we go about showing love isn’t the way others receive it. Each of us shows and receives love differently. A study found that the top five things that make women feel loved are completely different from those that make men feel loved. Consider the following possibilities: extracurricular things like going to a baseball game or a restaurant or doing fun things make men feel loved most. The number one way that women feel loved is through meaningful conversations.

Friend, every single one of us, by God’s design, has a unique thumbprint, a different string of DNA, and we all have different stories and experiences. Everyone has needs, including your customers, your team, your family, and your neighbors. You can ask God to help you discover the needs of each person, so your impact will be ten-fold. Besides understanding the heart of the person you want to serve, there is no extra work required. This is God’s key to getting everything right!


Father, as I serve those who are in need, help me to understand their hearts.


Are you aware of how others perceive your service?

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