|As we move through our study of blooming where you are planted, the third way to accomplish this is to learn how things are. Don’t consider how they should be or how you want them to be. Avoid using the word “should” as much as possible. You have to learn how things really are. There are many so-called “experts” who aren’t experts at all. Take Nicodemus for example. Jesus is discussing the spiritual life with Nicodemus, a famous teacher in Israel, informing him how to be reborn of the spirit and how the spirit dwells in a person. It was so confusing for Nicodemus, he had no idea how this could be possible. “You are Israel’s teacher,” said Jesus, “and do you not understand these things?” —John 3:10
We must learn how things really are. Do you need more money? Learn how money really works. Do you want a spouse? Learn to become an attractive person from the inside out. A friend of mine from college had a lot of baggage and issues. He had this list of things he wanted in a wife. His list included a rocket scientist, supermodel, and a millionaire. His friends told him he needs to work on his list!
Friend, I tell you this often: If you want someone in your life, be the kind of person someone would love to marry. When it comes to marriage, we always think about who we want to get, not who we want to be for them. A great goal this year is to become the best spouse, sibling, son, daughter, even boss or leader. It’s worth considering as you learn how things are and consider your reality.