I am not a therapist, but I have a new theory. My apologies to therapists, but I don’t think couples counseling is always a good idea. I think individual therapy is more beneficial. Going to individual therapy and saying, ”I want to become a better person. It is important to me to find out what is missing in my life,” will yield better results. I’ve seen over time that when people attend couples counseling, the therapist often becomes a referee. The couple accuses each other of wrongdoing and tries to earn enough points for the therapist to say, “He’s the bad one,” or “She’s the bad one.”
In individual therapy, you can say, “I want to dig deep into myself. Tell me how to be a good husband, the kind who my wife needs.” That’s the kind of therapy that works. That’s the kind of personal growth we need — when it’s about you, not someone else. As you apply personal therapy, you will create a happy and amazing life!
Friend, I know you desire a great life! It’s as simple as creating amazing days first. Anyone can make it a great day, most of the time. There are days when you cannot do this, but that’s ok. If you are able to make it a great day five or six days out of seven, that would be considered a great week, wouldn’t you agree? If you can make three out of four weeks a month joyful, wouldn’t that qualify as an outstanding month? I think so! You can make it a great year with that momentum! And with many great years, I think it’s safe to say you’re having a great life!