If we want to grow in our relationships, we must become experts at reconciling, at being the bigger person, and especially at being first. Now if you’re the reconciler — and a lot of times it’s one person in the relationship — the next time there’s an argument and you decide that you’re not going to be the first. You say, “No, no! I’m not doing it this time. They have to talk to me.” And I want to just say that to having good relationships means eating crow, setting your pride aside, asking for forgiveness, and being the first to forgive. Also, be overjoyed that you even have someone in your life to forgive, and that you have someone in your life that will forgive you. That’s what it means to have friends, to have a spouse and to have a family; it means we forgive each other. We forgive. We can lay our pride aside and be the first. |