Not only am I a pastor’s kid, I’m the grandson of a pastor. I also have a great grandfather who was a pastor as well as a great uncle and many siblings who have been in ministry. That said, I know what it’s like to be a “PK,” and I’ve established a special kinship with others who are in the same club. As I have gotten to know the children of pastors, I’ve discovered that the problems they face have to do with feeling that they are second to their parent’s ministry. The lack of attention in favor of the church can be perceived as hypocrisy on the part of the child, and the resulting psychological wound can lead to rebellion. For me, I’m fortunate that I never felt unloved or unimportant to my parents and family. I did, however, sometimes feel the pressure of being in this role. 

Friend, I share this with you to encourage you to take care of those the Lord has called you to love, starting in your own home. As Christians, the most important thing we have been called to is the work of loving Jesus and showing His love to our spouse, children, grandchildren and spiritual children. Whenever serving God becomes busy work, you are in a danger zone, and it’s best to reevaluate. Being a disciple of Jesus begins in your own family and your influence moves out from there. Whatever it requires, make sure your house is in order and that your biological and spiritual offspring know that they are the most important thing in your life!