|Hannah and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary in May, which I am very excited about! We got married when we were both 21 years old and started dating two years before that. So now, we have officially been together longer than we haven’t been together in our lives, which is a milestone all on its own. I have an amazing wife, partner, and friend who is my greatest treasure. And at this point in my life, I feel like I am finally able to offer marriage advice. I can honestly say that we have a very good, healthy, and happy marriage.
I believe that marriage is not as complicated as we think it is. Here are the two things that I feel make up 80-90% of a successful marriage: Staying friends is the first step. When you’re friends and do fun things together, like go to dinner, go for a walk, or stay up late and talk, that’s going to nurture your relationship. It’s going to help carry you through the ups and downs. The second thing is your marriage should be viewed as something that you serve, not as something that serves you. Having a great marriage comes from serving one another. If both people in a marriage think, “I’m here to serve her,” or “I’m here to serve him,” then it’s going to be a great marriage. Both people need to have this mindset.
Friend, it’s easy to think the marriage is here for you, rather than for you to serve it. A marriage that is based on service to each other and friendship will be life-giving. It is possible for God to give you a wonderful marriage that you will love and cherish for the rest of your life!