“And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off?”

– Luke 18:7

On this Veterans Day, we are grateful for those who have served our nation and fought for our freedoms. May God bless you and your families. 

Today we continue our series on forgiveness. Many of us misunderstand what forgiveness is, so the thought of letting go of the wrongs done to us sounds awful, even painful. However, it’s important to know that when we talk about not holding onto offense, we are not pretending that nothing ever happened. I talked to my mentor (who’s also a therapist), Bill Gaultiere, about this years ago, and he shared with me three things that forgiveness is not. I think it’s important to understand these before we talk about what forgiveness really is. 

First of all, forgiveness is not excusing. Being merciful doesn’t mean that you look for a way to let the other person out of the wrong they have done. It’s not saying, “well, they did the best that they could” or “they just weren’t well at the time.” Secondly, forgiveness is not overlooking. It’s not saying, “Oh, I’ll just pretend this isn’t happening” or “it will make things easier if I look the other way.” Thirdly, and this is the most important, forgiveness is not forgetting

Forgetting is one of the worst things you can do when you’ve been hurt. When you try to forget something bad that was done to you, you end up putting it in an unconscious part of your body and mind where it has the potential to cause you great harm. It’s important to write those things down, meditate on the pain they caused you, and then choose to forgive.


Jesus, thank you for helping me to feel and deal with the wrongs that have been done to me as I embark on my forgiveness journey.


How does understanding what forgiveness is not change your heart towards letting go of offense?

If you’re unable to attend your local church or need some additional weekly inspiration, be sure to tune into Hour of Power every Saturday night at 6:30 p.m. PT on TBN or watch online at  

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