“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”
– Matthew 12:36-38
A couple days ago, we talked about labels and how there is power in defining someone else’s identity by making a blanket statement about them. Today, I want to share a story from my childhood that illustrates a similar point.
When I was a kid, a certain member of my extended family often exclaimed to me, “Bobby, you’re so clumsy!” It was super-annoying because she would repeat it multiple times and go around saying it to other people. Looking back, the interesting thing is that I don’t think I was (or am) particularly clumsy; however, I would become clumsy around her! When she was near, I would inevitably drop or trip over something, and then she would announce to the “whole world” that I just did this stupid thing and label me yet again! Every time this happened, I became more clumsy — and I don’t think it was a coincidence. Whether we want to or not, we as people (especially children) internalize these kinds of messages and become what others project on us.
Friend, the interesting truth about life is that when you point out and focus on the bad stuff, you get more bad stuff. On the contrary, when you focus on the positive and call out the good in people, you get more of it! Whether with your kids, your spouse, your parents, or your friends, choosing to emphasize what they do right will always yield greater results than tearing them down or pointing out what they do wrong. The mind is powerful, and patterns of thinking are often the direct result of words that are said. This is why it’s critical to speak life, hope, encouragement, and affirmation to the people around you. Your words are your weighty; choose them wisely and they will bring abundant blessings!
Jesus, help me to use my words to edify and speak life to others. I believe that there is power in what I say, so I ask you to bring my lips into alignment with your heart.
Of the ones with whom you have significant relationships, who can you practice speaking more positively to? To help you get started, list five strengths of the first person who came to mind.
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Its the anchor to my week.
I love the music and the chant (my grandaughter says).
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Hi Cynthia! Thanks for letting us know how much the ministry encourages you! We are thankful for your support and prayers. God loves you and so do we!
Still watching you on TBN Saturday nights – I’m the lady who sent you an email
asking you to stop fiddling with your handkerchief during your sermons.
So since, I have watched you and you have stopped and for this I thank you!! Praise
I’ll be 90 years young this July 3rd – still typing like I did 40 years ago. Say a prayer
for me on my birthday – I want to live until I am 100.
Hi Mary Ann! We are rejoicing with you for the long life Jesus has blessed you with and will continue to stand in agreement for good health, abundant energy, and many beautiful moments as you live each day to the fullest! Thanks for writing to us. God loves you and so do we!
I just want to say that since I found TBNuk and your Hour of Power 6.30 every Saturday how helpful this is. Thank you and I praise God for this.
We are so glad the ministry blesses you, Sister Pauline! Thanks for letting us know. God loves you and so do we!